Friday, July 30, 2010

Mailbag: Keeping the Home

I deleted my commentary in response to some of the rebuttal I get on here about homekeeping, I'm just going to let these quotes say it all:
The following quote flowed from a paragraph showing the position commonly held in early New England that, “no repectable person questioned that a woman’s place was in the home. . .”

“. . . However, this view went beyond the Puritans and was the perspective of all branches of the church and a central aspect of Western Christian culture. For example, Lenski, the eminent Lutheran commentator, stated that the phrase ‘keepers at home’ indicates domestic responsibility and that the home is the place of a married woman’s work; she is a ‘housekeeper’ who dispenses ‘all good things in this domain.’
Her role is so vital to the well-being of her husband and children, her responsibilities in keeping the home so demanding, that it would not be possible to properly fulfill them unless she devotes herself entirely to them. She cannot do what God has called her to do unless she abides at home. “Furthermore, ‘guide’ is a present infinitive indicating that managing the home is the wife’s constant occupation, her full-time job.”

“Thus the roles assigned to the married woman by God confirms that ‘keepers at home’ refers to those who remain at home so that they might properly attend to their duties of caring for their family and managing its everyday affairs. When her duties are understood in all their scope and significance, it becomes clear that only by being ‘keepers at home’ can a wife and mother fulfill her high calling from God to be a helper to her husband, a mother to her children, and a manager of her household.” ~ William O. Einwechter

“The Woman’s first duty is the making and keeping of her home. Many a modern woman chooses a career, hires a baby-sitter, and rushes her children through childhood so that she can be free to pursue her selfish interests. The Bible teaches that women are to be ‘keepers at home’ (Titus 2:5). This means a women is to be there, loving her husband, teaching and enjoying her children, and applying the homemaking arts with joy in her heart. This mother is the heartbeat of the home. She helps lay the foundation of moral standards there. The warmth of her spirit quietly establishes security in the lives of the little children, brings confidence, that in spite of their problems and fears, all will be right. Why would any woman trade this noble place for some dollars earned or for some coveted position?” ~ “Woman’s Role”, Mennonite tract

“Nowadays when the godless element is putting a premium on childless homes and sneering at the faithful wife and mother, some homes are becoming centers of crime; marriage is becoming a merchandise; wives are becoming business women, and children are unavoidable nuisances. The few children who do make it into the world are turned over to milk bottles and babysitters, to public schools where there is now danger in the classroom, and to modernistic colleges, where young people live together without the legality of marriage and where drugs and drink abound on campus. But memories of old-fashioned mothers truly bring us back home to the simple things. How different her home? How different her life and sphere of activity! Rarely do we find her equal in this modern age. Her home was her realm — she was always there. . .” ~ Great Preaching on Mothers

“My dear sister, the Bible teaches that womenfolk are to be ‘. . . keepers at home. . .’ (Titus 2:5), not a social gadabout or a professional career woman in public employment. No woman can fulfill her duty to either her husband or her children who spends eight hours per day away from home and family. It takes real spiritual determination for any woman to properly perform her duty before God towards her husband and children.” ~ Bob Gray

“. . . the career-chasing of mothers who are not satisfied with simple, unapplauded home duties; the selfishness of wives who criminally avoid motherhood. In addition to these difficulties, heightened, as they are, under the laxity of war, American mothers are being coaxed away from their families into high-salaried positions. I have some startling figures for you. They are reliable, submitted to me by Frank X. Reller of the St. Lois juvenile court, and show that in this city almost one third of all juvenile offenders under seventeen came from homes in which both father and mother were employed. ‘But,’ you say, ‘perhaps their mothers had to work. Perhaps these families could not exist without her extra salary.’ What does Mr. Reller say? He answers, ‘In every one of these cases the father was employed with an adequate income to support his family without the necessity of the mother’s employment or her leaving the home.’ ‘Why, then you ask, do these mothers work? Again, this juvenile court official explains, ‘They are actually sacrificing the welfare of their children for a few paltry dollars and a few items of luxury.’ You may be ready to denounce me for what I will now say; but I am certain that if you follow this advice, some day you will be ready to thank me: Mothers, give up your work now! Go back to your family! Pray God to show you how your children should be trained! Watch over them as the gift of the Lord’s love! You may lose a little money, but how rich you will be when your boys or girls — under parental direction — become stalwart Christians!” ~ Walter Maier

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8 comments:

candy ♥ said...

I agree... if more women were home, more men would have jobs!

I too love that my husband can work and provide for us. We too are a one income family.

When there are families where both spouses work, something always, always gives. Mom cant be a superwoman, something will always give... Either it takes a toll on the marriage, on the kids, or the house being neglected, or meals neglected etc.
She cant do it all and so why risk her precious family and her health (and facing God about her choices) for a mere worldly job?

I wish more women understood what a real, true blessing it is to be able to be at home to care for your family, for you man and your kids and for your home. There is nothing more precious than to serve others in this way.

It makes my husband feel like a real man to be the provider and to have the blessing of having his wife not have to work for a worldly man out there on her feet her all day.

We know that one thing leads to another... when women are in a worldly environment, it makes it easier for compromise with the world. It is hard enough as a Christian sometimes but why put oneself in a situation to make it harder. Like if you have to go out after work with your coworkers, talking about worldly affairs, trash etc or going out for "drinks".... ungodly things. And then sooner or later you find yourself slipping away from your true convictions, and your morals etc.

There is a saying that goes something like this
"tell me who your friends are, and I can tell you who you are' In other words, we become like those we associate with. If we are around the world, were going to become more worldly and what better way for that to happen than to be working out in the world among the worldly everyday?


It breaks my heart when homekeepers are bashed for their choice to be homekeepers. We are leading private lives, trying to do the best we can. Why do others try to discourage and discredit this? It is a hard working job to be a homekeeper. It should be respected and valued.
Im sorry you are getting discouraging comments..

candy

Christian Homekeeper said...

Don't be sorry for me Candy! I'm REJOICING that others talk bad of me and persecute me! ;-)

Thanks for the comment and your input!

Bev

No Ordinary Me said...

Good post. I have seen the differences in homes where women do not follow the biblical way. It canbe very disturbing. I am not saying that Christian Homekeepers never have issues or are perfect. I am saying I see women where the "pants" and are the ulitmate decision maker. This ought not be.

I see children running over parents because the parents are wrapped up in their own "self interest" that it is very sad.

I also see marriages breaking up, debt beyond relief, and women seeking their own pleasures because being a "homemaker" to them has no value.

My mom called me the other day telling me about some book that is the craze called, I love my kids, but I hate my life.Something like that. She was saying women was complaining how they need me time, and they feel like their brain is moosh, they don't know who they are. They love their kids but don't want to be with them.

She was saying it was appaulling to here and watch.

I just don't think they have the first and true love. God.

Amy said...

Matt 5:11

I only WISH I could be more like you fine homekeepers out here in blogland. Maybe one day I will be one.

Christian Homekeeper said...

Very true Chrissy and sad that so many think of their own children that way!

Amy, whatever situation you may be in, God can do all things and make a way! :) The verse you gave was one that came to my mind today lol - when I was getting sad or angry on what others say about me, I realized that I should rejoice! Thanks for sharing!

Bev

Anonymous said...

bev, I always enjoy reading your blog and I hope you don't quit blogging anytime soon. I too would love to be a homemaker but right now I have to work six days a week most every week, I have talked to my husband about it and hopefully things are going to change! I ask you to pray for me.

Brittani B said...

I read your post last night & was amazed @ what you said. Everything was so true! Mothers belong @ home! Why wouldn't you want to take your place as a woman/mother/wife. I absolutely love to take care of my family. Sure there are ups & downs. However, the rewards will out weigh the negative.
Keep up the awesome truth telling Bev! You are a wonderful woman :) I love your blog. It's funny that hater's have time or would put forth the effort to critique your work. Crazy!
I believe you truly are helping others in knowing how to be the "homekeeper" they are called to be by God. You give awesome tips & I love everything about it. Women all over can benefit from it! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

Christian Homekeeper said...

Thank you ladies for the comments! :)

Anonymous - God can do anything! If you and your husband determine to make it on his income and give it to God, God WILL do the rest! I've seen it many, many times and He never fails!

Brittani B - thanks so much for your kind words! I had deleted my commentary because I didn't want to sound mean but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that sometimes the truth hurts. Also, why should I back down or cower about homekeeping when this is a HOMEKEEPING blog hahah. Well, I will surely have more to say in the future because I have some that have set out to make it their life's purpose to harass me and I can only hope after reading whatever God puts on my heart - they will get right one day.

Thanks again, such encouragement when my readers speak out!! :)

Bev

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