Thursday, November 1, 2012

What's a Stay-At-Home-Wife To Do All Day?

I had two friends who both have no children and both would echo the same thing, "I'm bored.  There is nothing to do all day at home."  Both have quit God altogether from what I understand.  One is now working on a job that she was doing before she said God called her to be at home.  Her explanation was that all she did at home all day was idle things like being on Facebook and that is what other women do too at home.  I told her I didn't but she said I was self-motivated and "different."  Sorry, but it has nothing to do with me, but rather being motivated by our love for God or else you can be motivated by Satan and the flesh and sit around moaning about how bad it is to be a homemaker.

The question has been asked many times: "What is a stay-at-home-wife supposed to do all day?"  I'm here to answer that. Before I had a child, I had 3 years of just being a wife and homemaker.  It didn't take long to clean my house and make meals because it was just my husband and I.  You want to know what I started to do with my time?  I started to READ!  I read my Bible and many other books on various topics.  I studied for one year on nutrition and continued it later on to advance towards a personal training course, just so that I could know for myself how to lose weight and be healthy.  I read about being a wife, a homemaker and I did some crafting.  I would sometimes read 8 hours a day and it was to the betterment of myself as a wife, woman and homemaker.

A woman who has no children can do a lot!  She can learn all the homemaking skills - canning, sewing, quilting, crafting, etc.  She can read a LOT!  She can write online and share her skills and knowledge with other women to help them.  She can help those in need by cooking or cleaning for them.  She can give to volunteering in the children's program at her church.  She can learn piano or another instrument or teach others how to if she already has this skill.  There are SO many things that she can do, there just isn't time for idleness!

A woman with children has her plate full, especially if she homeschools.  Her job is to her husband AND her children and then her house and there isn't much time left after that.  One of Paul's admonitions for younger women to prevent idleness was having children but sometimes this isn't possible for some women and therefore they must find ways to prevent the idleness that the bible warns about.  This idleness leads to gossip and going from wall to wall in lives full of Facebook or what other outlet you have that leads to being a busybody.  How about a little less talk and a lot more action?

1 Timothy 5:13-14
And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not.  I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. 

The excuse was that everyone else is idle and they all just sit on their rump all day at home.  Just because there are some that do that and bring a bad name to homemakers, doesn't mean we all are like that.  We are supposed to all be learning and growing together, not concentrating on those that aren't doing right.  If you do that, you will find the "excuse" you were looking for easily because we are all imperfect.  What the real, bottom-line, reason was for my friend, was that she wanted to work.  She desired the life that God called her out of when she first got saved.  You can't blame it on others,  it is ultimately YOU that has to answer to God.

God has called women to be at home, to love their husband and children, and to guide the house and we should give every ounce of our being to that calling!  Does your life help another keep on going for God or does it encourage them to be slack as well?  Remember, others are watching our lives and we must encourage one another to continue on with good works and edify them with our words and daily lives.  Become the example that could help another keep the faith.

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13 comments:

admin said...

Thanks so much for this post. It's very encouraging. I'm one of those women who works a job but desperately wants robe a homemaker because I feel that's where God really wants me to be. Unfortunately, I'm not very domestically inclined if you know what I mean. I've always what I'd do all day but you've shown me that there's loads to do! Luckily I love to read!

tealady said...

Bravo! I am also a housewife,raised all my children,some foster,and now we have no children at home(I'm 51).I still am a wife and my job is to be a help mate to my hubby,I make sure that he can go to work every day with a good meal before he leaves and a good lunch packed and a warm and loving home when he get's done with work.You are truly an inspiration to all of us homemakers.Love your blog.

Christian Homekeeper said...

Thank you ladies for the comments! :)

Tricia said...

Bev,
I love this post! I left my job as a public school teacher 10 years ago and have NEVER looked back! I love being at home, taking care of my husband, homeschooling my kids and being the best homemaker I can be! I am SO honored to do the job that God intended for me!

Christian Homekeeper said...

That is awesome Tricia, thanks for sharing! :)

Linda said...

Great Post Bev! There was a time when I didn't have children and stayed home to keep the home. There were times that I did get a little bored, but oh...the time I had. I could sew, read, pray, practice music, cook things I enjoyed cooking, shop etc...I had time. Now I have children and I homeschool, yet my time is all used up and i can't say I have time to get bored. Being home with them means more than what I could be on a job. Keeping my home a home when my husband comes home is important to me. Homeschooling has opened my eyes to a lot of things but one of them is that I'm meant to be here. A lot of people say that is not what scripture means but talk to any mother who has children and is trying hard to do both and they'll disagree. If she does, her priorities are not where they should be and she has decided to turn a blind eye to reality.
Thanks for sharing with us.

Christian Homekeeper said...

I agree, thanks Linda! :)

michelle said...

When I quit my job and got married, I had co-workers tell me that they were envious of me that I was able to stay at home and be a housewife. For 15 years I was a single mom burning the candle at both ends. There is nothing boring about being a housewife! Lots of things to do!

Some friends and I were chatting about when you look at things differently such as "chores", they don't seem as tedious or undesirable. For example, while doing the laundry, remind yourself how you're able to provide clean clothes for your hard-working husband. While cooking dinner, think about how wonderful it is to provide your husband with a delicious home cooked meal after a long day on the job. It's all how we look at things.

I love being a housewife! Great post Bev!

Michelle

Christian Homekeeper said...

Thanks for sharing Michelle! :)

Jackie said...

Being a wife is the best job (and the most enjoyable) that I've ever had!! Not bored, here! Thanks for the post!

Christian Homekeeper said...

It is, thanks Jackie! :)

emmasouthlondon said...

It sounds as though you have a great partnership at home - congratulations, and keep up the good work! I'm enjoying your blog - thank you.
Emma.

Christian Homekeeper said...

Thanks Emma! :)

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