Tuesday, August 21, 2007

A Crown to Your Husband

Proverbs 12:4
A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.

Proverbs 31:11
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

What do these Scriptures portray a Godly wife to be? A "crown" to her husband? Did you realize that you have the opportunity to be a crown for your husband? Either a crown of honor or a crown of thorns!! With our lips, our actions and our attitudes we can be a crown that honors him and builds him up, sparkling with the radiance of many precious jewels or we can be a crown that is painful, sharp, tears him down and offers only shame.

Many women complain that their husbands refuse to be the spiritual leaders in the home. This may be true, but I would have to wonder if these dear ladies are truly and honestly willing to humbly submit, removing the "crown" from their own prideful head and sacrificially becoming a crown of honor for their husband's. It's difficult to become a crown for my husband if I'm too busy polishing the large and heavy crown of pride on my own selfish head!

Psalm 141:3
Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips.

Have you ever had a visit with a couple where the husband was trying to tell a story and the wife rolled her eyes and corrected her husband every few minutes? "No, it was 4:00 NOT 6:00." "No, THAT is NOT how it happened!" "They don't want to hear you ramble on and on about THAT, get to the point!" "Why do you always say that, that's not true!" Don't you just wince? If it brings you pain just witnessing the scene, imagine the pain and damage it brings to the husband and his ability to properly lead that family! Those were extreme examples, but I have seen it happen many, many times and sadly I have been guilty of it, to some degree myself!

"The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her...." Oh what a joy for a wife to know that her husband safely trusts in her. How about you? Does your husband know beyond a shadow of a doubt, that when you have a friend over for coffee, all the words of your mouth will be edifying and honoring towards him? Does he know that when he invites others to his home, that you will honor and respect him while visiting with other families? Does he *trust* you to be graceful when he makes a mistake or stumbles over his words or is he nervous and in constant fear of your public ridicule if he accidentally ends his sentence in a preposition!

Sisters, we are designed to be a helper to our husbands. If you had an important project to complete, would you appreciate a helper that "delayed" your work, one that continually tried to be the boss, or that undermined your leadership with sarcasm or suspicion? You would most likely rather do the job ALONE! Could this be why many marriages have difficulties with "oneness?" Wouldn't it bring much glory and honor to the Lord if we could repent of any selfish pride that we've allowed into our lives? I pray that we may purpose in our hearts right now, to obey God and to submit respectfully to our husbands, to honor him and allow God to transform us into a beautiful crown that fits perfectly on our own husbands' head!

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Tracy said...


Paula said...

This was a very good post! Having listened to women complain about their husbands, not only is it inappropriate, but I truly don't think they understand how much their husband does for them.

Christian Homekeeper said...

Thank you Tracy and Paula for your comments!

~~Deby said...

This was so good and so true..I know .....I can be the more vocal one..and as years have gone by, I hope that I have learned to just shut my mouth.....
Great reminder and post.

Christian Homekeeper said...

Thank you Deby for your comment!

Shalene said...

I have struggled with this in the past as well. I have learned though, that while it may be difficult at first to show respect and honor to your husband, that once you begin doing it regularly, it becomes rather nice. Before I was a believer, I never would have thought submission to my husband could be a good thing. Now, I wouldn't have it any other way. Thank you for this post. You might enjoy a post I wrote that had a similar theme. You can find it here: http://msp31wannabe.blogspot.com/2007/06/true-proverbs-31-woman.html Thanks for another great post! In Him

Christian Homekeeper said...

Thanks Shalene for your comment! I will go check out that post.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for such a positive post. It seems like we are often bombarded with society telling women that husbands are a burden. Thanks for reminding all of us about the blessing they are and how we can be a blessing in return. This post inspired me to write something similar today on my blog.

Thanks also for entering my August giveaway and sharing what your favorite aspect of God is. You're right, God's love is so awesome. It's hard to pick just one aspect of God that makes Him so wonderful.

By the way, I love your blog! I'm adding you to my blogroll!!

Christian Homekeeper said...

Your welcome Robyn, thanks for your comment!

Anonymous said...

This is a truly inspiring post.. this is something that i am working at and praying for.. I think society has taught women that they should speak their minds when ever and where ever they please and I have been so guilty of that... once you have started it is hard to stop but this definitley helped me see areas I need to improve apoun.... I need to pray and ask Jesus to remove my crown and help me to place it on my husbands head instead... thanks Bev you have once again helped me to open my eyes

Christian Homekeeper said...

Glad to hear that Tara! I always hope that things I share or find to share will be a blessing to someone else, that is always the purpose: to help others. I'm glad that it fulfilled its purpose in your life. ;)


Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for posting this. I was instantly convicted of my mouth with my husband. I came across your site when I was looking on how to be christian wife. I read that post & then I found this one. It's so easy as women to forget how dangerous our tongue is. Thank you so much for this. Shalom-Alyssa

Christian Homekeeper said...

Your welcome Alyssa and so glad it was a help to you! :)


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