Thursday, July 22, 2010

Who in the World Isn't on Facebook?

CNN asks "Who in the World Isn't on Facebook?" and I reply, "My family and I and close friends".  The article I came across today was disheartening to me.  Not only because, I've watched others lose their morals on Facebook but also because 3 people we know left their spouse after entering the Facebook world.  Those things have only warned me of the dangers involved.

Am I really that odd?  Am I so socially unacceptable to the majority that I'm some kind of kook for not being on Facebook?  Am I peculiar maybe?  Is that what I have to join to be accepted and liked by others?  Why are those without divided from those within?  Does it promote cliquish behavior?  Does it cause division?  Is it of the right spirit?  Is it expedient?  Can anyone ever set rules on what you shouldn't do on facebook?

I came across and excellent on article on "Should Christians be on Facebook" by R.C. Sproul Jr.  He makes some very valid points and challenges your thinking.  According to the Bible, Paul states that all things are lawful for we as Christians, but not all things are expedient.  Simply put - it isn't sin but it could be a weight, idol or lead to sin.  Same with all other things of course but what other area do you put out your first and last name, location, job, who your friends and family are, where you grew up, went to school and so forth?  I was able to show my sister that I could easily steal her identity knowing nothing about her but just what was on her facebook profile.  She was scared to say the least lol.  Imagine how easy for pedophiles it has become to track your children.

I know everyone gets their toes stepped on when you mention ANYTHING negative about the F-word and believe me - I've gotten an earful of it from saying anything against it lol.  I've had people ask me "Are you on Facebook" and when I reply "No", they stop and look at me and then I get this LONG essay on why they are on there and all the great things about like its some sort of god.  I wonder sometimes why it has to be defended so greatly?  I wonder why it causes such a stir?  Why are others so sensitive about it when people, a few years ago, were afraid to even use their first and last name online.  The way some talk about it, even the media, you would think people actually bow down to it and worship it daily.

Here are some great quotes from the above article:

"How, I wonder, can a person take a technology that exists to say to the watching world, “Here I am. Come see about me” complain that the world is coming to see about them? Anyone who wishes more privacy can find such easily enough."

"Is the rush of nostalgia from finding long lost friends encouraging you to be dissatisfied? Are you secretly looking for that old girlfriend? Are you already caught up in adultery simply by wishing you could be sixteen again?"

"is Facebook encouraging contentment or resentment? Are you coveting your neighbor’s friend count? Are you jealous of how many “likes” there are for his posts compared to yours? And are you content with the real life you are shutting out while hunched over your keyboard?"

I have no doubt that if I ever got a Facebook, satan would make sure all the men from my past found me.  It would be a door left wide open for temptation to enter in.  Sadly, we already have witnessed that in a few people.  I don't want to be found necessarily because the girl back then DIED and I became a new creature in Christ.  Hubby feels the same way and quite frankly, I don't want my husband to have other women on his page to chat with.  Overfamiliarity breeds more than just contempt.

However, don't take this post the wrong way - but, alas, some will always find wrong in me no matter what I say or do.  Sadly, I'm in the minority with this viewpoint and I know its not accepted but I will not cower to the social norm.  I can only hope that more marriages aren't destroyed by this social device.

Divorce lawyers reveal that one in five divorces now cite Facebook as the reason and one 35-year-old woman even discovered her husband was divorcing her via Facebook:

I watched a news story video online and the news anchor mentions Facebook is like piping infidelity into your home.  He said he even knows personally of 3 marriages that ended because of Facebook.

I will end this post with a video of a conservative Baptist minister sharing a story of some Godly young men reaching others for Christ and also a bit of admonition dealing with being a man of God:

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candy ♥ said...

Bev, this was so well written! I value that you care sooo much about your fellow sisters and brothers in the Lord! Enough to make others just stop and think about the things they do, such as facebook.
We all need to do that at times.... stop, and give some serious though.... is what I am doing helping further the Kingdom of God or am I am in anyway hindering others.
We are called to be different and set apart. We are making it harder on ourselves to live our very best for Christ if we are surrounded by the unsaved. Its like going to a hang out joint or pool table pub place where the unsaved hang out. It just doesnt feel like that would be the best place for us as Christians to spend our time.
Its hard enough as it is to try everyday to live holy but why would we make it even harder on ourselves by being worldly. Sometimes we make things harder than need be.
We should keep things simple. Live holy. Live humble. And not play around with childish things.

Something encouraging I noticed is that more and more true Christians are closing their account. Its so nice and refreshing to see that.

For me, I tried facebook when it was first out but you know, it just didnt feel right for me. It sickened me actually. And the more a person is studying the Word of God, things like that, like facebook, become more obvious of how ugly it is. So I closed mine few years ago and never looked back.
Theres a lot of baby Christians out there though, that dont see it things in a spiritual way and I think thats why so many are still on it.
We need to wake up and not be sleeping, not be lukewarm. Jesus is coming very soon. We need to mature in our Christian walk, and chose the best for us so that our light can shine brightly for Him! Praise God!

Thank you for reminding me why I am not on this type of thing.

I also know of close friends where there was a cheating going on via facebook that just about split the couple and family up. Also, many viruses and few cousins got their accounts hacked into. Thats scary.

Oh yeah, my husband always said facebook is being used by the devil (because of all the reports of splits and cheating). And make no wonder.... the owner of facebook is an atheist!!! I wouldnt support that knowing the he doesnt believe in our Lord and Savior!


Anonymous said...

NOt on facebook and don't care to be. Too much mess.

Christian Homekeeper said...

Thank you ladies for your replies! :)


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