Sunday, August 22, 2010

It's All About ME

I've noticed an alarming trend in many circles of women lately - the seemingly increasing levels of selfishness.  No longer do women desire to be mothers or even wives for that matter but rather they want ME time and ME to-do lists and ME care and all the other ME's out there.  They start by throwing their children off on someone else for a night and then next thing you know they can't bothered with the nuisances and always going around screaming for their ME time.

Next thing you know, they resent time with their husbands and homemaking.  They spend all day OUTside of the home and before long they are not any different than the women who works on a job.  Actually, sometimes, the women working on a job does a better job at mothering and being a wife than some homemakers do.

The more you feed the selfishness, the bigger it grows.  The more you think you deserve time to yourself, your desires, your hobbies and so forth and push your children and husbands off of the priority list - the more you get full of your self.  Usually selfish people do not even see that they are - but others notice it in how they talk about their children, husbands and duties as a homemaker.

Not only does the one doing this hurt themselves but they also injure their husbands, children and the all around spirit of their own homes.  The husband finds something else (or someone else) to engross himself in since the wife can't be bothered.  The children act out with being disobedient yearning for attention because mom is too busy with her wants and desires.  The home is forsaken and becomes a den for filth, laziness and clutter.  All the while the mother/wife is sitting idly in the corner checking her myface and glorying in her self at the expense of her God-given duties.

These behaviors don't happen overnight, rather they are gradually introduced into your life one at a time.  You get used to and start liking being without your children.  You get used to and start liking not having to tend to or serve your husband.  You get used to and start liking updating your myface 10 hours a day and letting the house go to waste.  However, there is a remedy - its called repentance!

God first, others second and ME last.  Take care of your walk with God first.  Take care of your family second and then what's left is for you.  This is the true source of personal happiness and peace within.  It is also the way you can turn your chaotic home into one of a loving environment to where your children and husband will rise up and call you blessed.  Oh yes, let's get back to FULL time roles of mothering, wifery and homemaking for the gospel's sake!

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Anonymous said...

This is a much-needed post for today's women! So many things are around to pull our attention away from our God-given duties in the home. Just a few weeks ago, God dealt with me about my hobbies (sewing, cross-stitching, etc.) and I made the decision to give them up for Him. I packed up all my crafting items, except for a few things I'm making as gifts, and am keeping my crochet hooks and a little bit of yarn. The rest I bagged up and gave to another sister who could use them. I have not felt this free in such a long time!
Next spring, Lord willing, DH and I will be outside together trying to plant a few plants and flowers. THAT will be my new hobby, something that we can enjoy together, not me in my own little world and him left to himself.

Christian Homekeeper said...

Thanks for the comment Vickie! :)

I wasn't saying that doing things or hobbies was anyway wrong, we all do have that time to ourselves and I consider those things as part of homemaking. But in your case, if you felt God was showing you they were taking away time from your husband or that for you it was something you needed to let go then Praise God!


Anonymous said...

Oh, Bev, I don't want anyone to think that I'm saying that hobbies are wrong! But, in my case, they were taking up too much of my time and I knew it was time to put most of them away. I still have my sewing machine and will sew from time to time, just not unless I really need to make something.

So, please, don't think I am saying this is the path for everyone! Since I am in a ministry, though, I knew that God wants more of my time and thoughts than I have been giving Him lately! Hope this clarifies what I meant a little.

Christian Homekeeper said...

Ok, that makes me understand it a bit more! ;-) I wasn't sure exactly what you were saying but I do now, thanks for clarifying Vickie and thanks for the comment!


candy ♥ said...

So true!

Mayra said...

Wow!!! Thank you for your blog! I just rededicated my life to God and have noticed the changes I need to make to be a better Christian, mother, homemaker, wife, and person. I almost cried, because I felt like you were writing about me being selfish; however, I realized, that is the person God and I do not want me to be! Thank you for reiterating what I've been praying about!!! God bless =)

Christian Homekeeper said...

Thanks Mayra! Glad that you rededicated your life to God! :)


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