Monday, July 30, 2012

Finding a Mentor

I want to welcome the new readers, as even though I haven't been blogging much the past few months, the readership has gone up.  So obviously, you are here for some reason and most that have personally contacted me have voiced that it is because I stand up for mothers, homekeeping and being a wife.  Which, in essence, is what we should teach each other about through our lives.

I'm constantly learning from some mentors I have in my own life.  One is a lady that has 6 children, homeschools, sets a standard and gives her all to her husband, children and home.  I see her once a week and what an encouragement she is to me!  She hasn't encouraged me to shun my child, go shopping all day, be on Facebook sitting around on my rear-end gossiping or playing video games or any of the other things that contribute to idleness.  Rather, she encourages by her speech and her life to do what was mentioned last night in the message at church:

Tit 2:3  The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
Tit 2:4  That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
Tit 2:5  To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. 

The message was timely and really helped me personally.  It also made me think of who in my life has really taught me through their life how to be what this scripture addresses.  It is important, I believe, to find a mentor - someone who will, by their life, teach you these important things.  I consider myself a young woman, though maybe to some I'm aged LOL - but really, I don't have that many mentors in my life.  I've had to learn through the school of hard knocks, so to speak.  I had prayed a few years ago for God to send a woman by my way to be that mentor and He did.  There are some that I look on from afar, but I don't get to see them in their day to day lives but they still set an example through their behavior and speech.  

I want to stay away from those that do the opposite, those that do not encourage me to stay home, love my husband and children, but rather speak against those things.  They, I have learned, aren't a good influence on me.  Make sure you have the right mentors and be around those women that you want to become like, those that have something to teach you that is Godly, not of this worldly, feminist mentality.

I want to become that woman, who one day, can teach those things, but first I must learn the basics and conquer my own vices.  Having a woman that mentors me in such a way, teaches me, so that I can become that woman one day.  I've not attained, but I'm pressing towards the mark and learning day by day and issue by issue, just how to be that jewel in my husband's crown.  What should we attain to as women?  It isn't the acclaim of others, because there will always be people that find fault with everything we do or say.  Isn't it rather, those for whom we are called to serve?  Our husbands and children, as the verse describes the 'praise' we should seek after as women:

Pro 31:28  Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. 

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Anonymous said...

Excellent post. I am so blessed to have a fabulous mentor.

Anonymous said...

Thanks gotjoy! :)

tealady said...

I wish as I was raising my children that I could have found a mentor but I had none.

I was lucky because I have always believed in God,and the Bible was a fantastic mentor.

Anonymous said...

God's Word is the best mentor of all, so true tealady! Thanks for the comment! :)

DeNiece Barnes said...

Well said my dear friend...I had a wonderful mentor in my life and she still is teaching me and I was blessed to call her my mom. I pray that I too will be a blessing to my daughters and other young women teaching them along the way.

Anonymous said...

I think that is wonderful that you had a mom that could also be a mentor! I want to be that for my daughter and even though my mom worked and wasn't there as much, NOW we are on the same page and growing and loving together. She is a WONDERFUL grandmother for my daughter now, it is a blessing. Thanks DeNiece! :)

tealady said...

I was a young mother(21) and am now a mother of a 29 year old son(you do the math),and had no one to help me along the way.I was raised in foster home's,but I always believed in God.I have no idea how I believed but I have,none of the families were religious.I wish I had a mentor but would love to find a young mother who needed to learn about motherhood,being a good wife and a God loving woman.Even at my age I find your post's so enjoyable.You are a mentor.

Anonymous said...

Thanks tealady! :)

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