Monday, April 20, 2015

Part 3 - Contentment - Living On One Income

I know all about this one as I've lived it, was able to come to the place of true contentment and am still practicing being content no matter the future decisions.  I can say that I've been there, done that and bought the entire collection.  What am I talking about?  Contentment.

If a wife learns to be content with what her husband provides, she will save herself, her husband and her children a lot of needless problems.  I admit that I was NOT content in the early years of our marriage because I didn't fully understand what was really important in life.  All I could see is what we didn't have and there was always something more I wanted.  This caused problems with our marriage and with our finances.

As a wife, you must learn contentment and learn to be content with what your husband provides.  If you don't, you will be that millstone, that nag, that brings everyone down.  You will squander the family finances on your discontent and tear down your house with your own hands as the Bible speaks of.  If I could go back in time and talk to my younger self - I would slap her and tell her to look around and how blessed she is and quit belly-aching about what she didn't have!!  Obviously I can't do that but thankfully God did, over time, let things come our way that made me "wake up" to the fact that I was not a good wife.

Some husbands can never pay off debt or even save a dime because their wives blow it all on stupid stuff they didn't even need.  The ironic thing is, this same wife that squanders all the money, will have the gumption to blame her husband for not providing for her needs later on when she spent all the money and can't buy a loaf of bread.  Most husbands would get tired of this kind of woman and who could blame them?

I never have anything.  I haven't bought a new dress in 2 years.  The kids need new shoes.  This house needs repairs.  Tommy needs more diapers.  And on and on...  What about the money that you spent on Mcd's?  Or how about the $200 you spent on that new electronic you had to have so bad?  See - nobody wants to face themselves when the hard times come, especially wives!  They want to blame the husband, when in most cases it is shown that women are the big spenders; not men.

It is time to wake up to the important things in your life ladies!  Look around you at your children and what your husband has provided you with and BE THANKFUL!!  That is contentment really - a thankful heart.  A thankful heart will not whine about all it doesn't have.  A thankful heart will be overwelmed with all it does have. 

Your not going to make it on one-income with an unthankful, discontented, greed-full heart and if you do, you will do it with DEBT!  You will find the way to spend money you don't have and that is what state most Americans are in today.  Don't spend what you don't have by learning contentment!

This post, if applied, will save you life-long marital and financial battles!

Christian Homekeeping © All Rights Reserved.


Mrs. Chrissy T said...

What glorious truth in this post. I have also been there and done that! I learned from that thankfully and have to keep my self on the path of contentment. It is funny how quick you can wander off it.

Tricia said...


Christian Homekeeper said...

Thank you both! ;-)

Rachel Kayeline said...

I would love to see you go a little bit more in depth to this. My Mom taught at a Christian school half-time until I was ten. Then she became a full-time stay at home Mom and homeschooled us and I remember that as being the happiest time in my childhood. Unfortunately, my mother remembers that time as "not having an identity of her own." She hated every minute of it. When I had just turned 13 she took a job at a different Christian School as a kindergarten teacher and informed us all that we were going back to school. I ran up to my room and sobbed, I didn't know why, I just felt betrayed. Then later, I was shamed for not wanting my mother to be happy. I love my Mom, but some of her ideas about what it means to be a woman of God scare me. She acts like if your gifts lie in teaching and music (me) then Titus doesn't apply to you and you glorify God more working outside the home. I'm sorry this is so long, but I have struggled with it for my whole life. Contentment as a wife also includes embracing your role as making the name of your husband great, rather than your own, right? Just like the Church's job as the Bride is to make Christ's Name great, not her own. Sarah was a princess, and her princessly duties included being counted on to make amazing food at the drop of a hat so that her husband would not be shamed before heaven.

Christian Homekeeper said...

Her identity should have been found in being a wife, mother and homemaker. When women seek outside of that, they are going against the Bible, against nature and what has been for all time until the feminists rose up to stomp on men and be the head. You are the result of her choice and that speaks.

You can still have hobbies and passions as long as they don't take you away from your calling as a mother/wife. To me, when the kids are grown, you will have all the time in the world to do what you want. Children only last for such a short time and then they are gone. I'm not going to let those years be lived in regret later on!! I want to know that I gave my all for my kids and I want to be well adjusted adults, who had a mother that was there and cared for them more than her own self.

There is more "glory" in working or getting praise of others but being a mother/wife sometimes doesn't get attention and that is what drives some women to work - pride and soothing their egos or being recognized for their "great" works that others see when God said you have your reward. How about the things unseen that we will be awarded for in Heaven? Living for yourself is such a shallow life and those are usually the women that are old, bitter and regretful or if they never admit it - they just live full of themselves to the end and wake up in hell.

There's to add a bit more depth LOL!

Post a Comment

Thanks for stopping by my blog. Be advised I do not approve comments that have profanity, advertisements, or rude behavior.

If you find yourself disagreeing a lot with what I say, then maybe you should check your intentions for reading and remove me from your favorites.