Tuesday, May 27, 2008

I just want my Mommy!

-->If you are a single mom and must work, don't take this post offensively! It is not meant for those who are unmarried and have no husband to support them.

Growing up there was one thing that I really wanted the most.....my Mommy! My mom didn't work till I started Kindergarten. She claimed the reason she started working was because of us (the kids) and that she wanted to buy us "stuff". So off to work she went and it was detrimental to me.

All through my school years, I would get off the bus....walk up the long driveway to a quiet and lonely house, anticipating my Mom's arrival home from work. However, instead of receiving her embrace and love when she entered the door.....she just wanted us to go away! She had had ENOUGH of people for one day, she was exhausted......LEAVE HER ALONE was the cry that so often rang through my ears.

Complaining ensued of what happened at work and how hard she worked and how she just wanted some rest. I felt like I was in the way, like I was a bother. I would often go on long hikes through the woods and neighborhood just to get out of that house I told myself. (It is by the grace of God that no one ever did anything to me as I was alone walking the streets lol).

I loved the weeks my Mom had off for vacation from work. That is when she was her best! She would plant flowers and cook us filling meals and was so much more happy and loving! I dreaded the day she had to return to work and wished I could somehow keep her home with me.......but she was doing it for "us" was the explanation.

For us? The stuff didn't mean anything to me! I would rather have not had much at all and have MY MOMMY! I wanted my MOM... not the stuff!!!

In recent years, my Mother realized what she had done and she now says she was WRONG in working and should have stayed home with us. She had saw the effect it had on me and she encourages me to stay home and be a MOTHER to my children! She supports me all the way. We can't go back and re-live those years but I can learn from her mistakes and not forsake my children for the almighty dollar!

If you are going to have them.....then raise them! They need YOU, not a babysitter and not a daycare. Do you really think money is more important than your own children??? What is wrong with your mind WOMAN??

The old excuse does NOT work on this blog! "We can't make it on one income" is hogwash! Thousands that are doing it drown out your cries of "can't".

Choose this day who you will forsake.......your children or your "career". It will have lifelong consequences...

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~~Deby said...

Another great post Bev.....

Christian Homekeeper said...

Thanks Deby.


Dawn said...

I was just reading on another blog about how the 1960's and the feminist movement changed our society and women began forsaking their families and homes for a 'job'.
Look how that has grown since the 60's.
The boom of day car centers...there are about as many of them as churches now.

You know on Yahoo news, or the headline I read yesterday, it read 'Find out which higher paying jobs are out there for women' or something like that.
I thought to myself, if more women were to take their role as wife and mom seriously, maybe there wouldn't be so many men filing for unemployment and barly getting by.

Oh yes, a family can make it on one income. I know many homeschooling families with 8 or more children and they live on one income and get by just fine.
If the world's 'typical' family consists of 2 children and they can't make it on one income, then it's time for them to say goodbye to all the 'extras' in their life.
Say goodbye to the cable TV...instead pick up the Word of God.
Say goodbye to the financial extra curriular activites that also wastes gas. With mom home she can plan fun and free things to do with her children.
Even if a family has to give up their nice home and move some place more humbly, it's all worth it then for mom to be able to be with her children and not having the world and their filth raising them.

I think for most Americans, they just don't want to have to feel the pain of living below their means, it's so much easier to keep working for them.

God's Word is clear about a married woman's role. Folks need to stop making loopholes around it to suit their desires.

Good post Bev!
God Bless!

Becky R said...

Hi! I am a single mom and was not offended by your post. It has been the desire of my heart to be with my boys since day 1. God has blessed that in I have been a nanny and brought them to work with me, and now I run an inhome daycare so I am home for them. I live in a very expensive area (I grew up here and all my family is here.) Rent on a 1 bedroom is $1000 a month. But i have lived on less money than anyone I know in past 10 years and I have no debt and all my bills are paid. God is so good! We live very frugally and do not have much spending money, but all of our needs have always been met and many of our wants too. God continues to bless my desire to be with my boys. Next year I will start homeschooling my older son as the school is not meeting his needs, God is making a way for this too. Thanks for posting what is on your heart, woman need to hear this. If I can do it so can they. Life is about choices and my career is raising my kids, what I do for money is secondary. -Becky in NJ

Christian Homekeeper said...

Thanks Dawn and Becky R for your comments! ;)

Dawn...wow I could have given you your own post for that one! Your words are very true and I appreciate others that will stand for what is right!

Becky R...what a testimony! Keep letting your light shine to others. I believe for single moms that have to support their family that God makes up the difference and you are proof of that! Praise God!


Jessica said...

Thank you! I just found your blog and love it! It is such an inspiration to me who will be getting started on my marriage in less than 2 weeks!

Christian Homekeeper said...

Thanks so much Jessica for your comment! ;) Congrats on getting married soon!!


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