Christian Homekeeping

The religious hypocrites were always looking for a way to get rid of Jesus. They constantly searched for faults, so they could bring accusations against him. Their agendas were very clear......they wanted to do away with Jesus. We know that satan is the accuser of the brethren.

Mark 3:2

"And they watched him, whether he would heal him on the sabbath day; that they might accuse him."

Luke 11:54

"Laying wait for him, and seeking to catch something out of his mouth, that they might accuse him."

The Bible tells us to not marvel if the world hates us. We know that a Christian loves, forgives and does not hate or keep bitterness in their heart against another. So why is it that some are feeding their fires of bitterness by constant slander against Godly men and women? If they are truly of God, should not they love, forgive and have no bitterness in their hearts?

It is plain by their works, who they are of, it is not of God. It is plain to see whose bidding they are doing. satan is the one who works on tearing down the work of God. satan is the one behind agendas set to defame Godly men and women. satan is behind the constant searching for accusations and yet another defamatory script to write.

Why would people want to rail against God's men and women and his church?

1 John 3:12

"Not as Cain, who was of that wicked one, and slew his brother. And wherefore slew he him? Because his own works were evil, and his brother's righteous."

It was jealousy, envy, and hate that did it back then and it is the same today. Let's look at the persecution of the Godly a bit more:

Psalm 37:12-15

"12 The wicked plotteth against the just, and gnasheth upon him with his teeth. 13 The Lord shall laugh at him: for he seeth that his day is coming. 14 The wicked have drawn out the sword, and have bent their bow, to cast down the poor and needy, and to slay such as be of upright conversation. 15 Their sword shall enter into their own heart, and their bows shall be broken."

2 Timothy 3:12

"12 Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution."

The wicked:

• Plot against the just
• Gnash on them with their teeth
• Slay those with an upright conversation

All that live Godly.....will suffer persecution, we learn in 2 Timothy. He did not say some, he said ALL and SHALL. If you are living Godly you will suffer persecution. It is not something strange, it is common for the Christian.

The wicked will always try and destroy those who have good character, walk upright and live for God. You have these haters of all things Godly bursting out at the mouth in pure slander and hatred for others. Do not they have to love to make it to Heaven??

1 John 4:20-21

"20 If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? 21 And this commandment have we from him, That he who loveth God love his brother also."

Thanks be unto God that we can come away from all that. God can forgive! We can let the blood of Jesus cleanse us from our wicked ways and love one another! We can have good works and leave the evil works behind!

**I stopped posting things as this post you are about to read because my blog readership had gone up and I didn't want to run people off.....but I realized that I can't be like that. I shouldn't "blog to please" if you will. Rather, I will stand for God and his word and not back down to anyone and thus......here is this post and it is not up for debate.


This topic has been on my mind for quite some time and isn't anything new especially to the USA, it is the blurring of the lines in today's society. Why the fuss over beliefs that women should look like women and men should like men? Why do others get upset that a woman wants to wear a dress and have long hair and be as FAR AWAY from looking like a man as she can be? And vice versa. Why the uproar? Why the stir? Why do SOME want to blur the lines and say it is ok? Why does a women want to put on pants and cut her hair? Is she wanting to look like a man?

Not only that but they twist the scriptures to fit themselves. God said it is an abomination for the woman to wear that which pertains to a man and vice versa. Also we all know that God put in the Bible the issue of HAIR and so it must be important enough if he included it in his word. ALL THOSE THAT LOVE GOD WILL obey his word! As soon as I saw it was in the Bible I had no qualms with obeying it. God said it, so be it, I'm doing it!

I feel FEMININE in a dress/skirt. I feel FEMININE with my long (uncut) hair and God said IT IS MY GLORY. Why would a woman want to cut off what God said was a glory AND a sign of submission to her husband? Simple.....she is rebellious and not submissive to not only her husband but to God.

We should want to be as close to visibly resembling our gender as we could be. Why would you want to be straddling the lines?

Society, the world, wants to "Blur the Lines." Aren't we supposed to not be like the world? Aren't we supposed to want to be ye separate? Why are some wanting to blend in with the world today? Simple, their heart is NOT right.

They see a woman with long hair and a dress and modest and go off saying don't push your religion on me. But the woman didn't say a word to them. What is that? That is called the God in that woman convicting them without even having to speak. She resembles FEMINITY by just her appearance. Or better yet, they use the "holier than thou" verbage to the person who convicts them to comfort their disobedience.

A real masculine man will desire a real feminine woman and vice versa. It is simple......so very simple. If you are a man and you desire your woman to look like a man, well you have issues and VICE VERSA! EEK...........no thanks I will continue to NOT be mistaken for a man, I have never, since wearing dresses been mistaken for a man but I have mistaken women for men because they had pants and I have mistaken some men for women because they had long hair. I have come up behind some and said Excuse me Sir, and SHE turns around and I'm like OOPS!

Wouldn't you shiver inside to think somebody had mistaken you for the opposite sex? Wouldn't that send some kind of DING DING to your mind? ***DING DING METER IS GOING OFF.......ANYBODY HOME??*** Wouldn't that make you want to look like your gender?

So here is a call to be ye seperate and God commands in his word! This isn't a choice or a religion.....this is God's holy word and if we have a problem with it we need to pray! God established the lines and it is satan who constantly strives to blur them.

Now the issue of hair.....

1 Corinthians 11:5-6

5 But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven.
6 For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered.

It doesn't take a rocket surgeon to figure out that women are to be covered. If a woman has her head uncovered it is JUST THE SAME as if she had a shaved head! It is shameful for a woman to have her head uncovered.

So, what is her covering? Well did you see the word "veil" at all in the Bible in 1 Corinthians 11 class? NO. Ok class, so what word did you see many times in 1 Corinthians 11? HAIR! Let's read this verse and see what God said was a woman's covering:

1 Corinthians 11:15

But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.

It says HER HAIR is given her for a COVERING. So class, what was given her for a covering? Her hair! It is to be long, uncut hair. If she cuts it, its as shameful as being shaven. She is to not cut her hair.......again class, what is a glory to a woman? Her LONG hair. Well what about black women and some other ethnic backgrounds? Their hair sometimes will not grow past their shoulders. It is not the length as long, it is the uncut hair. So the word Long means letting hair grow naturally, uncut to whatever length it naturally grows. Why would you cut off your glory anyway??? I don't want to cut off what my God tells me is my glory......if he likes it, so do I LOL.

It is so simple. God made the Bible so simple, yet some want to make it hard. They want to throw veil in there........they want to say a woman can cut her hair as long as it is past her shoulders or long in length........so do tell, what does a woman who can't grow her hair past her shoulders do then according to that view? God isn't prejudice! We have cut, shaven and uncut hair talked about in 1 Corinthians. The only one God said was right is UNCUT! "KISS: Keep It Simple Sister!" ; )

Then you have some that say you don't have to follow this part in the Bible that is in the NEW TESTAMENT. Hmmm........let's see here. God wrote the Bible. It is all inspired. He put this in there because he thought it was important. God doesn't waste words! If you don't follow these verses, you are in disobedience to God's word. Sin is disobedience to God..........you sin when you cut your hair if you are a woman! I haven't even got off on men, but most people have no problem with men keeping their hair short. Nature even tells us it is shame for a man to have long hair like a woman!!! EWWW........I want my man looking like a man thank you very much!! Oh by the way, he wants me looking like a woman. And evidently......God does too.

Real

• not artificial, fraudulent, or illusory : GENUINE
• b (1) : occurring or existing in actuality

What we have is real, it is not something made up, it is not something artificial or an illusion. IT IS GENUINE! It is an actual thing.

You know when the word of God is preached at our churches the Holy Spirit confirms it so. Right is right and wrong is still wrong. Holiness is still right! Sin is still wrong!

God made it plain in his word that it is real. He has made it plain to us but sometimes we have a "pepsi with the devil" and he will confuse and cloud our minds. If we continue to let him do that and keep sipping with him, pretty soon our mind will be so clouded we can't think right. Then you start to hear the word of God preached and God once again clears our minds and we see correctly again.

One of the tactics of the enemy is confusion. I've experienced it personally. So how did I overcome the confusion? Well I realized.......what I had was real, God is real and even the enemy, satan is real and he wants to destroy me. He doesn't want me to be strong in God. He wants me to be movable, double minded, unstable.......swayed to and fro and left to right, up and down. Well I have news for him..........He ain't got me! With the Lord's help and grace I will continue on fighting and trying and working towards being grounded in God.

God isn't the author of confusion, so it is satan who confuses. If he can get your mind all confused and clouded to where you can't even pray then he has got a foothold on you. But thanks be unto God we can cry out and ask God to help us and God will clear our minds. Then we can see clearly.

Sisters, we know it is real. We have experienced God and isn't it great to have a church that preaches the truth? That doesn't back down? That doesn't compromise? Do we even thank God enough that there is a church that will not cower to the enemy? I thank God for the church of the living God and all it stands for. May we ever stay real and as a church pure and holy.

As the saying goes "Keep it Real!"

When things go wrong as they sometimes will
When the road you're trudging seems all up hill
When the funds are low and the debts are high
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh
When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns
As every one of us sometimes learns
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out
Don't give up though the pace seems slow
You may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt
And you never can tell how close you are
It may be near when it seems so far
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

Edgar A. Guest

Pastor preached Sunday night about holding fast and he also preached last Thursday night using the story of David and Goliath. He used the illustration of this well known Bible story and how David came to fight and said (1 Samuel 17:29)

What have I now done? Is there not a cause?

David knew there was a cause and that God was going with him and this Giant would fall! I got to thinking more about this Bible story and re-read it yesterday. Isn't just like the devil to taunt? To try and make you fear him, as this giant was doing. Notice what the Giant said to them (1 Samuel 17:10)

I defy the armies of Israel this day; give me a man, that we may fight together.

In response to this, did God's people say "Ok God is with us, we will fight against you for we trust God!" Oh no.....they were afraid. (1 Samuel 17:11)

When Saul and all Israel heard those words of the Philistine, they were dismayed, and greatly afraid.

Here they are shaking in their boots with fear......doing just what the enemy was trying to get them to do; FEAR! This is one of satan's tactics and seemingly it was working very well until David came into the picture. Here comes this shepherd boy........Goliath after seeing David, was insulted that this "youth" was the one sent out to fight with him. He taunts him going on about how he will (1 Samuel 17:44)

.....give thy flesh unto the fowls of the air, and to the beasts of the field.

Then notice David's BOLD proclamation to the enemies' taunts and fear tactics (1 Samuel 17:45-47)

45 Then said David to the Philistine, Thou comest to me with a sword, and with a spear, and with a shield: but I come to thee in the name of the LORD of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom thou hast defied.
46 This day will the LORD deliver thee into mine hand; and I will smite thee, and take thine head from thee; and I will give the carcases of the host of the Philistines this day unto the fowls of the air, and to the wild beasts of the earth; that all the earth may know that there is a God in Israel.
47 And all this assembly shall know that the LORD saveth not with sword and spear: for the battle is the LORD's, and he will give you into our hands.

Then David RUNS to this Giant and with a sling and a stone he is knocked down and dead. David wasn't afraid of the enemy, he knew God and that God would fight this battle and win!

Oh how many times have we, who proudly proclaim we are a Christian and wave the banner, become afraid and let the enemies' taunts cause fear to enter our minds? Who will be a David? Is there not a cause? Don't back down to the enemy, be bold and arise and fight! God didn't save you for you to be in fear of what satan might do to you. Who is stronger? Is satan stronger than God? NO, so quit acting like he is! NOTHING is impossible with God......let us not have a heart of unbelief, but rather HOLD FAST to the faith and STAND!

So the next time your Giant comes to taunt you and make you fear......instead of responding as he would wish, how about BOLDLY proclaiming your faith and telling satan to back down in the name of Jesus!

Romans 8:31

What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?

The Lord has built into man the emotional capacity to BE ANGRY, and this powerful emotion was originally meant to be helpful and not harmful. Anger can be a proper and useful emotion! Yes, there is such a thing as a HEALTHY, HOLY, RIGHTEOUS ANGER (sometimes called "righteous indignation").


1) God is angry.

God is _____________ with the wicked ______________ _______

(Psalm 7:11). God is always and ever angry against sin!

2) The Lord Jesus is sometimes angry.

Consider the following passages and discuss why the Lord Jesus was angry:

• Mark 3:5 (compare Matthew 12:10-12--these religious leaders were more merciful to a dumb animal than they were to their fellow man!).
• Mark 10:14 ("much displeased" should be translated "moved with indignation or anger").
• Mark 11:15-17 (compare John 2:13-17).
• Matthew 16:21-23.
• Matthew l8:6-7.
• Matthew 23:13-33.
• Revelation 2:6,15.
• Revelation 19:15-16.

3) The Holy Spirit sometimes causes men to be angry (1 Samuel 11:6).

4) God commands the believer to "BE _________________" (Ephesians 4:26).

Caution: The Lord knows that with frail men righteous anger can easily become sinful anger, so He adds the words, "and _______ not" (Eph. 4:26). It’s easy for us to get angry at the wrong things or to get angry at the right things for the wrong reasons! If your sinful anger has harmed someone else, don’t go to bed until you have corrected the problem in God’s way (prior to the age of electric lights people used to go to bed when the sun went down!).

As you consider the following people and their anger, decide whether their anger was SINFUL (indicate by "S") or RIGHTEOUS (indicate by "R"):

1.______Cain (Genesis 4:5-6).
2.______Esau (Genesis 27:41-45).
3.______Moses (Exodus 16:20; 32:19 Leviticus 10:16-17).
4.______Moses (Numbers 20:7-13; compare Numbers 27:12-14; Deut. 1:37; Psalm 106:33).
5.______Balak (Numbers 24:10).
6.______Saul (1 Samuel 11:6).
7.______Saul (1 Samuel 20:30).
8.______David (1 Samuel 17:26, 45-46).
9.______David (2 Samuel 12:5; note: David was right in getting angry at the sin of this man, but who should he really have been angry at?).
10.______Elisha (2 Kings 13:19).
11.______Asa (2 Chronicles 16:10).
12.______Nehemiah (Nehemiah 5:6).
13.______Jonah (Jonah 3:10; 4:1-11).
14.______Herod (Matthew 2:16).
15.______People of Nazareth (Luke 4:28).
16.______The Elder Brother (Luke 15:28).
17.______The Jerusalem Jews (Acts 7:54-58).
18.______Saul (Acts 9:1).
19.______Paul (Acts 13:9-11; Galatians 1:7-9).
20.______Satan (Rev. 12:12,17).

• This study is shared with permission from the owner, Middletown Bible Church. Feel free to print this study to fill in the blanks and do the studying!

To add in my own words, I myself have had times where I have been rightfully angry but also times where I was sinfully angry and I have had to ask forgiveness. A lot of times we are unsure how to handle certain situations and are quick to act without praying and asking God how to the handle the situation. If it is sin you are angry at, then God is angry also!

I'm far from perfect but with each day and each new situation that arises in my life, God is teaching me and showing me where I fall short and what I have to work on in my life! We all have something we must work on, none have attained. However continuing in the sin is a whole different matter, when you do not ask forgiveness and you continually do the sin......you are far from God. But thanks be unto God he offers forgiveness through the blood of the Lamb, Jesus Christ, our advocate. All we have to do is ask!

Acts 5: 38-39

And now I say unto you, Refrain from these men, and let them alone: for if this counsel or this work be of men, it will come to nought: but if it be of God, ye cannot overthrow it; lest haply ye be found even to fight against God.

Gamaliel, who spoke these words, was part of a council which had just been blasted by the preacher Peter, who said, “The God of our fathers raised up Jesus, whom ye slew and hanged on a tree… and we are his witnesses of these things; and so is also the Holy Ghost, whom God hath given to them that obey him.”

When they heard that, they were cut to the heart, and took council to slay them. Standing before them was a man who had been with Jesus Christ - a close disciple at that. He had been with him from the beginning and had taken part in His ministry and had seen the miracles He accomplished; heard His preaching and teaching and walked with Him on the water. He had learned from the Lord at an exponential rate. He was given the opportunity to preach repentance as Jesus did; heal the sick as Jesus and cast out devils just like Jesus (Mark 6: 12-13).

Sure, he had his moments of failure - even bitter defeat. But through it all, God made him. Not only him, but all those who turned to the Lord with a whole heart. Peter witnessed the Risen Savior and stood and watched as He ascended to Heaven. He obeyed Jesus’ command to tarry at Jerusalem for the promise of the Holy Ghost. The result? The Baptism of the Holy Ghost and the immediate preaching of a message that produced effective results in three thousand souls. That was just the beginning.

So this Peter stood before the High Priest of a now defunct religion and its council. Filled with the Holy Ghost, he preaches THEM a message too. And wouldn’t you know it? They got hit with the same forceful conviction of the Holy Ghost they did when Jesus preached at them. They didn’t realize that killing the one man they murderously hated would produce 12 more preachers of the same spirit. Sadly, they refused the Spirit of God again at Peter’s message too. They reacted exactly the same; not just content to say no, but they were filled with the desire to kill this man too. He preached like Jesus, he acted like Jesus and God moved with him just like Jesus!

Seeing the reaction, the only seemingly receptive one of the bunch arose to quell the others. Gamaliel was no ordinary member of the council. He was a doctor of the law with the reputation of wisdom. He put forth a reminder to them of Theudas and Judas - two men who before had risen as cultic leaders of sorts. Hundreds of people had followed them, yet both were killed and the masses were scattered and brought to nought.

But he saw in these disciples something different. He knew in his heart these men preached a message that actually did something in people’s hearts and souls. He saw God in their lives: words and actions. Their leader was ‘dead’ and they were not only still living for him, but they were stronger in their convictions and willing to be killed for the cause. He saw the stuff they were made of, and it was godly and righteous.

Christian: How often do you consider that YOU are made of the same stuff? Peter continued right where Jesus left off. In fact, Peter’s shadow was a tool of God’s healing. You don’t read that about Jesus. So Peter did things we don’t read of Jesus’ doing. This was His plan all along: “Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father.” (John 14: 12)

Remember, the Bible was written to the believer. So the words of Jesus weren’t just directed at Peter and the other disciples. Jesus says them to you today. “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”

Written by my husband

All Purpose Disinfectant Cleaner

Here is a recipe I invented myself and have used for a long time and love it! It disinfects (tea tree oil) and cleans really good and I love how it can get rid of odors as well!

Here is how I make it:

• Equal parts of warm water and white vinegar
• 1-2 drops of dishwashing liquid
• 5-10 drops of Tea tree oil

Lightly shake together and your done!

I use one of those large sized spray containers you get at Walmart to make this cleaner in and I use this on our kitchen countertops, stove, etc.

If you want to mask the strong smell of the Tea Tree oil, simply add a drop of your favorite essential oil. But leave the Tea Tree oil because it is what disinfects!

Bar Keeper's Friend

Another tip, do you ever get those stains on your counter-top that seemingly no matter what you do they won't come off? Well I had a few stains from one of my cast iron pans and then a stain from koolaid. I had tried all I could think off......lemons with salt, different cleaners and nothing would get the stains off! Then I sprinkled some Bar Keeper's Friend on there and it QUICKLY came off! So now I use that for things I can not get off! It took the iron rust right off my countertop, when I thought it was there to stay permanently.

KILLING WITH WORDS

A lady that was in the same store as me and my daughter had been listening to my 3yr old daughter sing Jesus Loves Me, sing her ABC's and talk to others around us while we shopped. Come to find out she was a Kindergarten teacher and she was amazed my daughter knew her ABC's among many other things she could sing several songs, quote the fruits of the spirit, tell Bible stories and tell someone about Jesus. She thought this was some extraordinary child and gifted and told me she will go far.

It was sad.....you might be saying "Why would that be sad?" Well, it is sad because all it is, is simply PARENTING!!!! Spending time with your child, teaching them the Bible and things they need to learn. Constantly talking with them and letting them help in the house, etc. However in today's society it is not so popular to really raise your children. Send them to daycare.....send them off to preschool to let someone else teach them what you YOURSELF could teach them in those young and moldable years.

Why is the average mother not doing her role? Why have a child in the first place if you were not going to raise them yourself? It mind boggles me all the time when I hear comments about my daughter being gifted.......when in reality, she is a normal 3yr old who has her parents loving her and teaching her and constantly praising her. Children NEED praise. Children NEED enthusiasm. One thing I always want my daughter to have is enthusiasm. It is one of the greatest gifts you can give your child. They have interest in life......and others simply by enthusiasm.

Instill in your daughters (by your example).....the role in which they were made for. Show them the value of what God has made them to be. Don't let the world and all its ideals, be the motivating factor in your daughter's life! Train them at home........teach them what the Bible says! Guard your children from outward influences which would be harmful......get rid of your TV!

I went home to visit my family and just being there for 12 days.......I saw enough on TV to reaffirm me not having one, going on 9 years now. I thought to myself "well it is a cartoon channel, so what could be so bad, right?" Then I saw the commercials and some of the cartoons had horrid things in them! How could this be?? Do parents leave their children to sit and watch this day in and out? WHO IS MOLDING YOUR CHILD'S BRAIN?????? Hollywood?? Is everything you put in front of your child what you want them to learn and mimic? If not, then THROW it out! ; )

We occasionally let my daughter watch a cartoon that we have screened on our computer, most are Bible DVDs and learning tools. My daughter mostly does puzzles, plays instructional computer games (yes she can use a computer very well), and loves learning and playing. Children's minds are impressionable and we must filter what is put before them, things we can control.

God has given you children and entrusts them to your care. Don't disappoint him.......train them up in the way they should go!! It's YOUR job, not anyone else's.........

Proverbs 22:6

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Just what is discipline?

Discipline - training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character; control gained by enforcing obedience or order; orderly or prescribed conduct or pattern of behavior; SELF CONTROL

I also looked up the definition of self control and it is defined as restraint exercised over one's own impulses, emotions, or desires! That is exactly what I need......some restraint exercised!! Also in my daily life with home things and cleaning and cooking, etc. Even spiritual.......we all need more discipline and self control somewhere in our lives. Or maybe I'm talking to an elite group of readers who are the epitome of discipline and self control.

Discipline makes your flesh do what it doesn't want to do and restrains your flesh from doing things that would cause undesirable consequences.

It is biblical as well! How about these verses, do they not display the discipline and self control quality?

Romans 6:19

I speak after the manner of men because of the infirmity of your flesh: for as ye have yielded your members servants to uncleanness and to iniquity unto iniquity; even so now yield your members servants to righteousness unto holiness.

Romans 8:13

For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.

Romans 13:14

But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof.

2 Cor 7:1

Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.

You can see the words that I put in bold describe things that we must do. All through scripture we find that it doesn't stop at salvation......we must CONTINUE to walk in God and practice discipline to keep our flesh under control. It doesn't just happen.......you have to follow God's word. Notice the bold words that we must do, these are action words:

yield
mortify
put ye on
make not provision
let us cleanse

There are MANY more scriptures but I just shared the first few that I found. If you truly are a Christian and love God, you will continue to walk in the Spirit, practice self control and discipline in your life and do those things outlined in the Bible that God has COMMANDED for us to do as his children. His commandments are not grievous to the Christian.

1 John 5:3

For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous.

Below is a list from men around the country that either spoke or sent the comments in to Dr. Laura. They are great and every married woman should strive to meet her husband's needs! We are selfish when we constantly think about our needs and our feelings and forget that MEN have feelings and needs too and in reality.......if you meet his needs, yours will be met in return. ; )

A Man's Needs

• A man needs to feel strong and needed as a protector for women - basically, to conquer the beast and rescue the fair maiden.
• What every man wants is for his woman to make him feel that he is strong and the head of the household. I am not talking caveman-style, dragging the woman around by her hair, but just as the leader of the family.
• A man wants respect, kindness, and love from his woman.
• A man wants to be put on a pedestal, not so that he can look down on everyone, but to show him that he is the most important thing to his woman.
• A man needs his woman to show him that she needs his strength to help her through life.
• The man should be the major breadwinner in the family. Every man needs a battle or war to win to prove to himself that he is strong and capable of conquering any and all dragons that life throws his way. Taking care of his family by working and providing are his battles.
• A man needs enthusiastic approval, appreciation, and respect from his wife for being a competent man, husband, and father.
• A man needs his wife to show some interest in his interests, especially when it's an activity she may not "get" or like. Just being there is important.
• A man needs his wife to greet him after work with love and enthusiasm.
• A man needs his wife to care about the day he's had.
• A man needs to know that his wife is sexually satisfied by him.
• A man needs his wife's encouragement in order to be a man.

These are all tried and tested! They work....he WILL treat you like a queen if you start treating him like a man and let him be the leader of the home.

I hope you all enjoyed the study, here is the last part and this will finish it up!

The Power Of Words To Hurt And To Heal

Have you ever heard the expression: "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." Is this really true? Of course words will not break your bones or hurt you in a physical way, but can words really harm and hurt a person? Let’s see what the book of Proverbs says.

What damage can words do according to Proverbs 11:9? ______________________________________

According to Proverbs 11:11? ____________________

Do you think you would be hurt if someone pierced you with a sword? _______ Can the wrong kind of words hurt a person (Proverbs 12:18)? _______ (It’s possible for a person to speak daggers!)

According to Proverbs 16:27, in the lips of the ungodly man there is as a _______________________ (scorching) fire. A fire brings destruction everywhere it goes (think of a forest fire). So also the words of the ungodly bring destruction and ruin wherever they go!

Who is the person who has destruction and comes to ruin (Proverbs 13:3)? __________________________

What causes a fool to be destroyed and trapped (Proverbs 18:7)? _______________________________________

Not only can words harm and hurt, but they can also help and heal.

The tongue of the wise is _______________ (healing)

Proverbs 12:18

A wholesome tongue is a ___________ of______

Proverbs 15:4, and this tree brings forth good and healthy fruit!

Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, ________________ to the soul, and
_________________ to the bones.

Proverbs 16:24

As honey is to the taste, so good words are to the ears and to the soul!

The lips of the righteous ______________ many.

Proverbs 10:21

The lips of the unrighteous constantly bring forth GARBAGE, and who would want to feed on garbage? But the words that come forth from righteous lips are healthy and wholesome and good for the soul!

Can you think of any time in your life when you have been helped and strengthened by someone’s words? Have you ever been encouraged or cheered up by someone’s words? Have the words of concerned people ever kept you out of trouble?

How can a person keep his life according to Proverbs 13:3? _____________________________________

How can a person keep his soul from troubles (Proverbs 21:23)? __________________________________

Every believer needs to guard his mouth. It is like the gates of a city. If the gates are well guarded, the city is safe!

What should the believer’s prayer be (Psalm141:3)? ___________________________________________

What is another good prayer that the believer can pray (Psalm 19:14)? ________________________________________________

Words are very powerful, whether for good or for evil. May God help us to use the powerful weapon of words for Him!


Take my voice, and let me sing
Always, only for my King.
Take my lips, and let them be
Filled with messages from Thee.

~ FRANCIS RIDLEY HAVERGAL

Slanderous Words

A person who slanders is one who makes false charges or false statements (or half-true statements) about another person, and these statements are meant to do harm! See Proverbs 16:28.

Did Joseph and Potiphar enjoy a good friendship (Genesis 39:1-6)?________

Did a slanderous woman ruin this relationship (Genesis 39:7-20)? ______

May we be careful to never accuse someone falsely. Would you want someone to attack you with words? If not, then don’t do this to others (see Matthew 7:12)!

Excessive Words

There is a real danger in the use of too many words:

In the ______________________ of words there wanteth (lacketh) not ______but he that refraineth his lips is__________

(Proverbs 10:19).

The wise man learns to S________________ his words (Proverbs 17:27). The wise man learns to close his mouth (see Proverbs 17:28). HE IS A FOOL, NOT WHO HAS UNWISE THOUGHTS, BUT WHO UTTERS THEM. If you close your mouth they might think you are a fool but if you open your mouth you prove it!

Before we answer with our mouth we should ___________ with our ears (Proverbs 18:13)!

In James 1:19 we are told to be _________ (quick) to hear, ____________ to speak. God has given each person two ears and only one mouth. This seems to indicate that God wants us to do more listening than talking! It is very easy to interrupt someone and answer someone before we have really listened and thought carefully about something. Better to be a fool than to be a person who is ___________________ in his words (Proverbs 29:20). Some people are quick to open their mouth and let it all spill out (like when you turn over a garbage can!). How much better to close the mouth and guard very carefully that which comes out!

When it comes to talk, a good rule to follow is this: WEIGH IT BEFORE YOU SAY IT! (Think before you speak!) If after weighing your words, you determine that what you are about to say is true, kind, necessary and helpful, then say it. Remember, once the words go forth, you can never bring them back!

Next - Conclusion of Our Words; "Our Words". Hope you enjoyed it and learned something about words, I sure did!

Boastful Words

Boasting is telling how great someone is. There is nothing wrong with boasting in and of itself. For example, we can boast in the Lord and tell how great He is! The problem comes when we use words to praise ourselves and tell others how great we are! This is sinful pride!

Some very helpful advice about boasting is found in Proverbs 27:2

Let another man _______thee, and not thine own _____________.

Praise is a beautiful garment, but though you may wear it, ANOTHER MUST PUT IT ON! Here is an example from the New Testament. Humble John the Baptist called himself "UNWORTHY" (Matthew 3:11) but Jesus called him the "GREATEST" (Matthew 11:11). John wore the garment of greatness, but he did not put this garment on himself. The Lord Jesus put this garment on him!

Flattering Words

What is better and more needful, rebuke or flattery (Proverbs 28:23)? _____________

The person who flatters always says nice things. He says things that a person wants to hear and he is unwilling to say things that a person needs to hear. He would rather speak smooth things than rough things (he does not want to cause any waves or create any problems). Often a flatterer praises another person too much (and often the praise is untrue or exaggerated).

Suppose you had cancer. What do you think the doctor should say?

You are in excellent physical condition. Everything seems fine.

You have a deadly cancer growing in you that must be removed immediately!

The nice things and the pleasant things are not always the things we need to hear! In His Word God always tells us what we need to hear even if it is not what we would want to hear. A good friend is someone who tells us what we need to hear even though the truth sometimes hurts.

Next - Part 5 Wrong and Wicked Words; on Slanderous and Excessive Words.

A - Admit when you are wrong
B - Be positive
C - Cuddle
D - Do it his way
E - Encourage him
F - Fix his breakfast
G - Give back rubs
H - Hug often
I - "I love you" should be said many times daily
J - Joke around in a playful manner
K - Know his needs
L - Listen to him
M - Manage your home well
N - Never hold grudges
O - Open your eyes in the morning and smile
P - Pray for him
Q - Quit nagging him
R - Reminisce about good times
S - Show respect and honor
T - Trust, and earn his trust
U - Understand his need for reverence
V - Vulnerability is a feminine trait; cultivate it
W - Wink at him
X - X is for private times
Y - Yearn to please him
Z - Zealously guard him with your love

This list was sent to me, by my friend Shannon. Author is unknown.

Today's interactive Bible study is going to be on Gossip! This is one area, where women especially, will need help on and prayer for. I started a study on Gossip a few posts ago and you can find it here:

http://christianhomekeeper.blogspot.com/2007/08/gossip-study.html

Before we start this study, I think it should be added a very valuable truth. If you pray a guard about your mouth daily, with the Lord's help you can keep your tongue in control! Not only will you not be guilty of the SIN of gossip, but your house will be cleaner and more organized, simply because you won't have much to gad around town about! What a concept.......mind your own business and do your work. (1 Thess 4:11)

Gossipy Words

Gossip is a terrible weapon of destruction. The person who uses this weapon loves to reveal very personal or sensational facts about a person (and of course this person is never present when the gossiper spreads these rumors). The gossiper loves to do anything except mind his own business!

According to Proverbs 11:13, a talebearer _________________ secrets: but he that is of a faithful spirit ______________________ the matter.

There are some things that we are told or that we know about that are not meant to be repeated. There are some things that if said would only hurt and harm. Have you ever heard someone say to you,

Don’t tell anyone that I said this...?

If it is not worth repeating then it is probably not worth saying in the first place! In spreading gossip, sometimes the gossiper pretends that it is with great reluctance that he speaks--that he is

grieved to even repeat this, but...!

If he were really grieved, then he would keep his mouth shut!

Are there some things that we should not repeat (Proverbs17:9)?__________

Have you ever bitten someone in the back (see Proverbs 25:23)? Of course when the Bible speaks of a "backbiter" it does not mean this in a literal sense. It means that you talk about a person in a bad way when his (or her) back is turned (when the person is not present). Would the backbiter dare say those things if the person were present? _______

Can words of gossip hurt someone (Proverbs 26:22)?________ In this case a wound is inflicted even though no blood is drawn and no outward hurt is seen.

There is a simple way to kill gossip. Gossip can never survive unless there is someone to listen to it. The problem is that most people enjoy hearing the latest rumor and they eagerly devour the latest gossip. They are as guilty as the one who gossips.

Here’s a suggestion the next time someone begins to share gossip with you. You can say,

My friend, let’s go to this person that you are talking about and let’s share this with him (her), and then after we share it all three of us can get down on our knees and pray about it!

Do you think this person would make it a habit to share gossip with you?

We must be careful never to gossip and never to receive gossip from others. Don’t give it out and don’t take it in!

Next - Part 4 Wrong and Wicked Words; includes Boastful and Flattering words.

This is the continuation in our interactive Bible study.

Perverse (Filthy) Words

The person who is P_________ in his lips is described as a _________ (Proverbs 19:1).

What kind of words flow out of your mouth? corrupt words? improper words? swear words? rotten words? Do you swear and use filthy language in public? in private? Do you copy the language of your unsaved friends or are you a testimony to them by the words which you use and which you do not use?

In the New Testament God tells us that no C________________ (Ephesians 4:29) or F_______________ (Colossians 3:8) communication should come out of the believer’s mouth! Don’t let the garbage and filth fly all over the place! Remember, our language reveals our heart! Filthy words come out of a filthy heart. Have you ever allowed God to do a "heart-cleansing" job within you (compare Isaiah 1:18 and 1 John 1:7)?

Harsh and Angry Words

Have you ever seen a person EXPLODE like a volcano in a fit of anger? When the human volcano blows, it usually explodes through the mouth! Usually the angrier the person gets the louder the words get and the louder the words get the angrier the person gets!

Have you ever heard an argument get louder and louder until the two people begin talking with their fists?

A __________ answer turneth away ______________

(Proverbs 15:1).

Next time try using the weapon of soft words! Soft words quench anger’s fire! Have you ever tried the soft answer approach when talking to your parents (especially during those times when there is a difference of opinion over something)? Loud, angry words only stir up wrath.

Next - Part 3 of Wrong and Wicked Words, which is Gossip.

Words are important. How much can you say in a three-minute phone call? Much can be said! In three short minutes slow talkers can get in about 450 words. It is possible to whiz through 750 words in three minutes. How many words do you think come out of your mouth during an average day? _____________________

Words are powerful. Words can create close friendships or destroy friendships. They can prompt laughter or motivate tears. Words can hurt and harm and words can heal and help. Let us now consider how words can be used in the wrong way.

False Words

What does the Lord think of a lying tongue (Proverbs 6:16-17; 12:22)? ________________________________________________

This sin caused Ananias and Sapphira to be hurried away into eternity (Acts 5:1-10).

Who is the liar’s parent (John 8:44)? ______________________

Will the liar be punished (Proverbs 19:5,9)? How will he be punished (Revelation 21:8)? __________________________________________________________

Those who love lies are showing that they do not love the God of truth. If liars will turn to Christ they too can be saved. The Lord Jesus Christ came into the world to save _______________, including liars (1 Timothy 1:15).

Are you a practicing liar today or are you a former liar who is now saved______________

Liars and deceivers hide the truth, twist the truth, misrepresent the truth and lead others away from the truth. How truthful are you?
What always came out of the Saviour’s mouth (John 8:45-46)? _____________________


Next - Part 2 of Wrong and Wicked Words

This is the start of an interactive Bible study. The information provided is free to print but should not be taken over as ownership or changed. It is provided by a group who wishes to help others and edify the body of believers, and is free to distrubute.

That which comes out of the mouth is an expression of what is really in the heart. In Matthew 12:34 the Lord Jesus clearly stated that it is not really a MOUTH PROBLEM, but it is a HEART PROBLEM:

for out of the abundance of the _____________ the _____________ speaketh.

See also Matthew 12:35.
Words are like FRUIT ("the fruit of our lips"). If the fruit is bad, something must be wrong with the root (MAN’S HEART). Remember, when wrong or filthy words flow out of a person's mouth, he is showing everyone a picture of his heart. The words that a person speaks reveal much about the state of that person’s heart.
The book of James has a great deal to say about the tongue and especially how important it is to "bridle" that little member (James 1:26; 3:1-12). A bridle is used to control a horse and hold him back and keep him in check. A man’s tongue is like a wild horse that must be controlled and held in check and restrained. We must not let it run loose! God is the One who can help us control the tongue as we trust Him and seek to please Him in all that we say.
Like James, the book of Proverbs is a very practical book and has much to say about the use and abuse of the tongue. The first thing we want to do is to look at some of the wrong and sinful ways that words are used.

Next - Part 1, Wrong and Wicked Words