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Part 5 - Notes from Homekeeping & Homeschooling Book

Chapter 9 - A Hospitable Home Genuine Hospitality - True hospitality consists of who you are and not what you have.  When you are hospitable, you are obedient to the Lord. Romans 12:13  GUEST = Give Graciously, Understand Usual Needs, Educate for Etiquette, Simplify Your System, Take Time Give Graciously - Cultivate a gracious and joyful heart that is focused on others. Understand Usual Needs - Anticipate your guests' requirements.  Plan ahead so you can actually spend time with your guests rather than continually excusing yourself for meal or snack preparations.  Look at your home from your guests' perspectives to understand what they might require for comfort. Educate for Etiquette - Teach children table manners before having guests over.  The most important rule of etiquette is always to think of the other person's needs.  Do what makes someone else comfortable. Simplify Your System - If you keep it simple, you will want to have guests often.  Don't repla

Part 4 - Notes from Homekeeping & Homeschooling Book

Chapter 6 - Record-Keeping Made Easy The Big Picture - Overall view of record-keeping - creating and using records.  Your family is not a school and you have no need to duplicate one.  If you overplan and lack flexibility, you will make yourself and your family miserable and accomplish little beyond filling out forms. Plan to Plan - Process of planning: (1) Decide - some clutter questions apply to forms and tools for records: What do I need?  Why do I need it?  Who else needs it?  Make a homeschool mission statement and goal sheet for each year. (2) Document - keep an academic portfolio for each child.  Keep your plan simple and uncomplicated. Setting Up Files - choose where to store records: file cabinet, box, etc. File-a-Plan - set up folders for your files, choose categories for your family.  Appendix B gives a list of possible categories and forms available. Archive - A once-a-year clean-out is necessary to control the volume of useless papers in your files.  The archive

It's Your Choice

In a free country like ours, we get to make a lot of choices: where we live, what we buy, how many children we can have, and even what teaching we choose to put our children under.  What do you choose?  You as the parent make the choice on what your child will be taught.  You would think most Christians would choose Godly education right?  However, the majority of those that call themselves Christians have made the CHOICE to place them under false atheistic teaching.  It isn't like we live in a country that comes and takes your child and forces them to be taught about evolution and a God-less history.   We actually have a choice in what our children are taught. What would you say to God if He asked you why Sally is learning that God did not create her or that God did not make the world?  Any excuse you would say wouldn't hold water with God.  He would look at the facts - you had a choice!   God doesn't think its cute for Sally to learn lies.  God isn't FOR teaching

Part 3 - Notes from Homekeeping & Homeschooling Book

Chapter 4 - Teaching Children Life Skills It's easier to do the chores ourselves than take twice as long to teach a child again to do it.  You teach your children's minds, but you train their will, which is more difficult. It Begins with You - If you have weaknesses in homemaking skills, diligently continue to improve those areas.  Children learn discipline when they see you exhibit discipline in your life.  Focus shouldn't be more on the chore but on the character that mastering and completing the chore builds into their lives.  Your children will quickly catch your attitudes. Life Skills - If I don't teach ____, will the lack of that knowledge be harmful or a hindrance to them later in life?  How can learning this skill be a vehicle to teaching a greater character lesson? Functional Neatness - It is worth the investment of time to teach children chores.  When children do simple chores, they learn to think in an orderly way.  Not only praise them for the good

Part 2 - Notes from Homekeeping & Homeschooling Book

Chapter 3 - Clutter, Clutter Everywhere and Not a Spot to Think Things are only useful when they don't hinder relationships with people and when they help you enjoy and serve the people around you. Balance - Clutter is the largest reason you and your family can't clean quickly or well.  It slows you down and drains energy and joy from your life. Clutter Quiz - 18 question quiz; #18: If the Lord called you home today, would you be horrified if your spouse accepted help from friends, relatives, or especially your mother-in-law to sort through your things? Functional Neatness - A comfortable place between (1) an obsessive neatness demanded by a mother who doesn't allow for a mess of any kind and is overworked trying to maintain that standard, and (2) slovenly conduct by family members.  * Neat enough to be peaceful and messy enough to be happy .  Everyone in the family functions better. The Good News - There's a difference between destructive, chaotic clutter an

Part 1 - Notes from Homekeeping & Homeschooling Book

I started reading "Homeschooling at the Speed of Life" by Marilyn Rockett today and I love it!  I'm only in the second chapter but wanted to share my notes with you all as I go along.  I'm finding the book just what I was needing and looking for.  It incorporates God into the home management equation and doesn't leave him out, like so many other authors do.  The scriptures are from a version of a Bible that I've never even heard of, so I keep my KJV handy to look them up.  God has already touched my heart in many areas reading this today!  This book will help you manage your home with homeschooling, but I think any homekeeper could glean wisdom from this book.  The book comes with a CD that has lots of printables for some of the things she talks about in the book! You can see a preview of the book here . * We are not striving for a "perfect" home but rather a " God-honoring" home . Organization is making your life work for you by bri

Exercising Temperance

I've spent a lot of time realizing that I've made food an idol - I turn to it before I turn to God and that is wrong! Will there be more people in hell over gluttony than other, seemingly gross sins?  Makes you think.  I'm not saying that all obese people are sinning, I'm just realizing in myself that I sometimes turn to food for comfort instead of God and I occasionally eat to excess.  I guess that is a public confession of my faults.  I didn't get 40 pounds overweight from exercising temperance! Php 3:19  Whose end is destruction, whose God is their belly , and whose glory is in their shame, who mind earthly things. The scripture is in the context of referring to the enemies of the cross.  The part where it says "whose God is their belly" really makes you think.  It could be talking about the sensual appetites of the flesh and it very well could be referring to self-indulgence (gluttony) and those that worship food and their appetites.  Then i

Homekeeping Skills to Learn

Being a homekeeper isn't just not working outside of the home, its having a job at home!  We are managers of our homes and just like our husbands need to keep up with their skills and add new ones to make themselves better, we do as well.  In a perfect world, every young woman would enter a marriage with a wealth of homekeeping skills that her mother taught her.  However, today we have a society where mothers, even mothers that were homekeepers, are not teaching their daughters skills that matter. My mother worked and didn't have or take the time to teach me homekeeping skills.  I didn't know how to cook, do laundry, clean and definitely not any of the extra skills like sewing or canning.  When I got married, I didn't even know how to boil an egg!  That was just 11 years ago and I've spent the past 11 years teaching myself.  Think of how much time of my life I could have saved, had those skills been taught to me as a daughter, because my mom knew how to sew, can,

Look What the Lord Has Done!

He healed my body!!  I had a scare this past weekend with severe pain in my lower back/abdominal region and my pelvic area.  The pelvic pain started the Tuesday before this past weekend and lasted four days and then the back/abdominal pain came late Saturday night.  By Sunday, it was really bad and I went to the walk-in clinic at our doctor's office.  The doctor thought it may be appendicitis and if the pain got worse, I had to go to the ER right away and they don't take any chances - they just open you up and take out your appendix.  She also thought maybe it could be cysts or complications with polyps in my colon I had a few years ago. I kept asking God........why!?  why!? why!?  It seems that my whole life has been one crazy medical issue after another and I didn't understand why my youth had to spent in such a way.  I guess I started feeling sorry myself lol.  Then I thought, as I have many times, that maybe God is judging me or something from something I did in the p

Frugal Tips from Readers

I did say this would be anonymous, so if you left your name, I didn't include it because I wasn't sure if you wanted it posted on here or not. You can use any older looking vegetables, carrot peels, onion peels, celery tops, potato peels, etc when making soup stock.  I love making stock because nothing goes to waste! Many times I will store a bag of peelings in the freezer from other dishes that can be thrown in for the stock.    Have stale bread?  Make bread crumbs, croutons, or ribollita (a Tuscon style soup using veggie scraps and stale bread).  Turn a bar of soap into liquid hand soap.  Make your own cleaners and laundry detergent.  Use your local library for books, newspapers, magazines, DVDs, games, and even some educational toys.  Do a clothing and toy swap with friends for your children.  Find free entertainment: library, local colleges, community events/festivals, church functions, invite friends over for a meal and games.  Eat less meat.  Every 6 months I do a pant

Dear House and Child

Dear House and Child, Do I take more joy in keeping you dear house Or do I take more joy in putting you aside for you dear child Do you dear house and your cleanness so clean Shine better to all of what is really seen A child neglected A dish not in the sink Which do I want more what is seen or unseen On the floor with you dear child making memories to last Or do I choose you dear house to remember from my past Another book to read to you dear child helps you feel a mother's love Another day forsaking you dear house to help my child make it above Oh what do I choose Oh who do I love most You dear house or you dear child I can't place first you both I've made my choice For this I know A dirty house will only show You dear child who I want to know I have priorities - God, husband, child, and then the rest And you dear house are not the best *I just started writing down feelings from my heart today as my house is dirty but my child is not neglected.

Children and Sleep

I've gotten a lot of questions over the years ranging from parents wondering why their child has behavior problems, doesn't perform well in school or seems agitated and unable to concentrate a lot.  One of the first things I ask is how much do they sleep?  A lot of times that is the problem - the child doesn't get enough sleep. Sleep is so vital for children and adults.  If I don't get past 7 hours of sleep, I don't perform well or feel well and I get sick more.  I've found that when I have good sleep habits, I don't get sick as often, I feel great and accomplish a lot and I'm not grumpy.  The same goes for our children. I was reading an article on Dr. Weil today about this and then saw the National Sleep Foundation has a list of how many hours children need.  You can find it here: When my daughter was 3 months old, she was sleeping 12 hours every night and then 2-3 hours of n

Shouting From the Hilltops!!!!!!

Normally our daughter is in children's church but since our church had a conference in St. Louis recently, she came to "big" church with us.  The past 6 months she has been talking about salvation, crying about wanting to go to Heaven and asking lots of questions.  This past Thursday night before church I showed her again Romans 10:9 and explained on the resurrection.  Then we went to church and the associate pastor preached about the resurrection and Katie was paying attention. Then came altar call and my husband and I knelt at our pew to pray but Katie was still standing.  She asked me if we were going to the altar and I said no.  Then she asked if we could go again and I said no, my husband then told her no and with the most sincere eyes that were starting to water, she said, "But, I want to pray for salvation!" My husband went with her and she prayed for salvation !!!!!!!!  I was crying of course!  It was awesome and then I thought of the scripture on ho

More American Than Christian?

“We’re not raising a man who happens to be biologically capable of having children. We’re raising a woman, a wife, a mother…’it sounds so radical!’ Yea, it probably does. You know why?’ Cause we’re a lot more American than we are Christian . We do the same thing everybody else does. And most times in the exact same way. After step A you take step B. Why? ‘Cause everybody does it, and if you don’t, you’re messin’ things up. Keep your prosperity in check. There’s a whole lot of women out there who have bought the lie that says you can have it all, and the fact of the matter is, you cannot. And you were never meant to. Nor were men. There is a role for us to play, you weren’t designed to have it all. But here’s what I’m wondering: why would anyone who has been given the incredible gift and privilege of being able to bear and grow in them a life - 9 months – why? Why? To have a symbiotic relationship between your body and theirs; between your heartbeat and theirs. That’s why.

I Know "Her".........

Years ago when I first became a Christian and got married, I had anticipated having children.  Upon voicing this, I was told that I would go to hell if I had a child because my husband was called to preach and a child would hinder his ministry.   (He was told he was called at that time but God is the only one who has the power to call and he will tell us if we are!)  This was tragic for me as I had always desired children, but upon hearing it from someone I trusted, I submitted and tried to quell the desire inside me for three years.  It was many nights of crying and forcing myself into submission because this must be what God wants I thought.  Then, we started learning that a lot of things we were taught by that individual were not correct.  Up came the hope that maybe I could have a child without risking my eternal future or "hindering" things. So, I asked the question and was covered in sympathy as the pastor told me that I would NOT go to hell for having a child and it

A Change of Heart

The past few weeks have been some of the hardest of my life and a time or two, I had wanted to request prayer even on this blog for my husband and I.  However, through all of it, God was showing me that I needed to stand more steadfast than I have ever stood before!  There is so much He has taught me and I feel like I've taken some giant steps in God this past week than I have in a long time.  I just wanted to share and you might not understand because I'm not giving the whole story of what was involved but maybe you can relate in some way: Not to care what he said/she said - you know its mostly SHE said LOL.  Come on ladies, women are emotional and some act like children when they get their feelings hurt. Stand up to others about their criticism when needed - not in a harsh, critical way but rather telling them for example "Hey, I get it that homeschool isn't your thing, so you can please stop reminding me every time you see me?  If you can't keep it to yo

Learning to Stand Alone

I had received 2 free issues of Home School Enrichment magazine and I'm finding so much quality material that I'm actually highlighting a lot.  They have been such a blessing to me for encouragement in this offensive lifestyle of homeschooling but there are also things in there for the non-homeschooler. One of the articles was, "Raising Kids to Stand Alone."  It is something that a lot of modern parents seem to forget to teach their children and is the cause of compromise, not only in parents and children, but in the church as well.  If we never learn to stand alone, we will cave into the norm or the crowd.  If we never teach our children, they will follow suit.  I like how the author of the article talks about rare people and gives us 4 categories: Rare Person #1 - born-again believer in Jesus Christ. Rare Person #2 - born-again believer in Jesus Christ who knows WHAT he believes.  Too few Christians today are able to explain to others what they believe in cri

Tribute to Homeschooling Parents

The son of the creators of Doorposts (from what I understand) wrote this to his parents: Thank you, Daddy and Mama, for purposing to teach us at home, for following through, and for pouring out your lives for us. You have been faithful to the calling God put before you. Thank you for reading the Bible to us every day. Thank you for reading us hundreds of books. Thank you for choosing to build a family library instead of buying new cars, expensive home decor, or big boy toys. Thank you for staying up late correcting our schoolwork. Thank you for helping us with math problems (even when you couldn't remember how to do them either). Benjamin turned out an engineer, so I think you did okay. Thank you for turning off the computer and making us play outside. Thank you for feeding our interests and fanning the flames of "delight-directed study."  We learned LOTS about history and about God's creation without knowing it was part of "school."

Quotes on Friends and Enemies

These days flattery wins friends, truth begets hatred. - Terence If you allow men to use you for your own purposes, they will use you for theirs. - Aesop I'm not even going to get mad anymore. I'm just going to learn to expect the lowest out of the people I thought the highest of. - Anonymous It is far better to be alone, than to be in bad company. - George Washington That you may retain your self-respect, it is better to displease the people by doing what you know is right, than to temporarily please them by doing what you know is wrong. - William J.H. Boetcker The true hypocrite is the one who ceases to perceive his deception, the one who lies with sincerity. - Andre Gide False friends are like our shadow, keeping close to us while we walk in the “sunshine”, but leaving us when we cross into the “shade”. In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends. -Martin Luther King Jr. Never explain yourself. Your friends do

Memories of Mom

Remember when in this post , I made the suggestion to ask your child to draw what they remember you doing most?  Well, I was a bit hesitant myself in asking my child because I was afraid of what she might draw lol.  I took the plunge too and then cried when I saw what her memories of me are: That is Katie and I in the kitchen, she is on the stool cooking and I'm holding her hand she said.  I'm not sure why I look like Tammy Faye LOL but I don't wear any makeup hahah.  =0 She said if something happened to me and I was gone, she would remember me teaching her how to cook and us smiling and having fun.  This is what I was hoping for, these are the memories I want her to have!  Sometimes we feel so inadequate in ourselves as mothers because of our many failures and flaws but it is good to know that God can make up the difference!

I Could........

Women that love their children like this that they will even homeschool being a single mother, really inspire me!  I say kudos to these women and the love that is shown by their actions! This is a poem I came across today from a single homeschooling mother and it was so touching: I COULD… I could send her to school, And from 8:00-3:00 have no clue… How many times she laughed, How many times she learned, How many times she questioned, How many times she understood, How many times she wanted more information, How many times she bounced in her chair from excitement, How many times she was proud of something she did. I could send her to school and she could get her exercise and sunshine, In 20 minute doses, if…she had on the right shoes, and no one misbehaved and everyone was quiet. I could send her to school And let her eat the processed high fat, low nutrition fare they feed millions of children a day, if she had enough time to eat and didn’t talk too lo

God-Called Blessings Now Burdens to the Modern Woman

Has anyone watched this documentary?  I saw the trailer and read this article and it makes sense.  Here are some quotes from the article:   "..the most important factor is a culture (including Hollywood, the news media and academia) that tells people that children are a burden, rather than a joy; that pushes an ego-driven, live-for-the-moment ethic; a culture that tells us that contentment comes from careers, love, friendship, pets, possessions, travel, personal growth - anything and everything except family and children . It's a culture that can look at Sarah Palin and her beautiful family and ask why she had to have 5 children and why she didn't abort her child with Downs syndrome." That really just sums it up huh?  What truth!  My husband and I were talking tonight about those today that actually seek to be barren.  Why not just pray "God please make me barren" "God I don't want these blessings called children, please spare me!"?   I

Satan-Inspired Per-Version Bibles

Is God not capable of providing the English-speaking people a version of His Word that is correct in its entirety?  Are any of the many versions today inspired?  Is there no inspired version?  Do we just have to pick and choose?  If one Bible says homosexuality isn't so bad but the KJV condemns it, do we pick and choose which we like better?  Is it really ok if some verses are only different by a few words?  Did God inspire all the versions? I'm here to tell you today that the 1611 King James Version of the Bible is the authoritative, inspired, Word of God!  How do you come to this conclusion?  Well, there are many factors involved but the main one is that God Himself bears witness with the KJV and there is power in its words that other versions have none of.  It is the only one in the English language that is correctly based of the original Hebrew and Greek and has NO errors of God's Words and meanings.  God truly inspired the translation of King James. ". . . y

Training Daughters To Be Keepers OUT of the Home?

God had touched my heart in a recent ladies prayer meeting concerning my daughter.  I thought she needs to be in Girl Scouts and then found out that was a godless organization now thanks to James Dobson coming out against it.  Then I came across American Heritage Girls and thought this was it!  However, there were some things they did ( dances, swimming, worldly "Christian" music ) that I just didn't agree with. So I started praying and asking God what I should put my daughter in and He asked me why I felt I needed to?  She interacts with other Christian families' children 5 times a week at church and then attends music lessons once a week in a house full of 6 kids that she plays with after the lessons - why does she need more "social" time!?  It was clear to me as I had hit roadblocks in enrolling my daughter in more "outings" that God wanted me to teach her to be content with church, prayer meeting and homeschool activities and not training her

Father Forgets

Listen, son; I am saying this as you lie asleep, one little paw crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on your damp forehead. I have stolen into your room alone. Just a few minutes ago, as I sat reading my paper in the library, a stifling wave of remorse swept over me. Guiltily I came to your bedside. There are things I was thinking, son: I had been cross to you. I scolded you as you were dressing for school because you gave your face merely a dab with a towel. I took you to task for not cleaning your shoes. I called out angrily when you threw some of your things on the floor. At breakfast I found fault, too. You spilled things. You gulped down your food. You put your elbows on the table. You spread butter too thick on your bread. And as you started off to play and I made for my train, you turned and waved a hand and called, "Goodbye, Daddy!" and I frowned, and said in reply, "Hold your shoulders back!" Then it began all over again in the

Busy With the Wrong Things

Everyone gets 24 hours each day.  Some do SO much in those 24 hours and others waste and squander those 24 hours.  What do you do?  Are you redeeming the time and doing those things that are needful and top priority?  Or rather are you doing things that really have no value on your priority list but have choked out the needful things in your life? What if we, as women, all stopped and evaluated our time?  What would we find?  Would we find hours spent online reading, playing games, facebooking/twittering and other things that consume our time?  Are those things that you value?  Name them and make a list of what you do online and ask yourself how those things benefit you and your family.  Are they helping you become a better person?  Are they replacing what really matters in your life?  Does God and the family have to go on the back-burner because you just have to read another Facebook update?   Just who is really your God; your idol; the one you worship the most? I refuse to let t